I have chosen to live in Charlotte, North Carolina. It’s where I sleep and work and go to church, but some days my heart is elsewhere. Today, as with many of my fellow Americans, my heart has been in New York City, remembering the fallen, and the brave. Much of the last few days it’s in a hospital room with my dad in Michigan. In a few weeks, it will be with my newborn niece in Georgia.  Most of the time it’s on the seashore of a deserted island.

A very wise man once said,

Home is where the heart is.

-Pliny the Elder (23-79 AD)

I believe this is even more true for the Christian than for the average citizen. The Christian’s home is with Christ. As a result, we will have a growing discontent and restlessness that points our mind heavenward. The “growing pains” of loneliness and frustration with the current world system should be clues that we are to run to Christ with our concerns instead of trying to find a solution in politics or even the church. That’s not to say that Christians shouldn’t strive to improve this world or even be better members within the church, but our final satisfaction and fulfillment will ultimately be in Christ.

But even with this understanding, how do you practically make the most of your life when your heart feels like it’s walking around outside your chest? Where is “home” on the days when your heart is in pieces scattered all over the globe? What then?

I have found that there are three actions I can take when my heart is restless or “homesick.”

1. Choose thankfulness. Find reasons to love the city or season in which you find yourself. Keep a blessings or a gifts journal. Try to find circumstances within the situations that further your life goals and be grateful for them.
2. Voice your love. I am especially burdened with this thought today, the 14th anniversary of 9/11/2001, the day the Twin Towers fell. So many voices that day were silenced. So many unspoken words. So many families forever altered. My heart still grieves for them. But you and I, we must choose to use the voices we still have for love. Send a letter. Make a phone call. Tell those you miss that you are thinking of them and that you appreciate the role they have in your life. You never know when God may choose to sever those ties. Say the words while you have time.
3. Make the most of every day. Wishing you were here or there never makes it so—especially when your wishes carry you to the past or future. Live in the present. It’s okay to feel lonely or to miss a loved one, but to remain emotionally stuck is not God’s plan for us. He desires for us to engage with those in our spheres of influence as Joseph did in Egypt and Daniel did in Babylon. If you find yourself struggling with moving forward in your life, I encourage you to seek godly counsel.

As planes fly over my apartment on this date full of meaning and memories, I am reminded that no one is guaranteed tomorrow. Time is still fleeting, despite all the safety features we have built in to our lives. So while you still live, and breathe—be thankful, be loving, be engaged…and in so doing you will change your self and your world.